tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-162230152886935198.post5247557719294298923..comments2023-05-02T05:01:19.659-04:00Comments on A Shadow of Grief: a lesson that shouldn't be taughtMEBSwickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542227172896398680noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-162230152886935198.post-77280508390999727322012-06-01T00:03:52.666-04:002012-06-01T00:03:52.666-04:00Sorry, that should have read "people of other...Sorry, that should have read "people of other races" instead of "or." I deleted my first comment, corrected that typo, then copied it to the new comment and it switched back in the process. Argh!Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01033756188316598562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-162230152886935198.post-89029476377139185812012-05-31T17:25:50.290-04:002012-05-31T17:25:50.290-04:00I like the way you handled that. We are working wi...I like the way you handled that. We are working with that issue with our children. Segments of my children's b-family had significant prejudices and my children also had numerous traumatic experiences that involved people or other races, in addition to people of their own race. We teach that it is normal to feel concern when they see someone who reminds them of a person who harmed them in the past, but that it is important for them not to stop there, but to recognize that this is not the same person--just someone who has something superficial in common with the person who harmed them. My kids feel ashamed of their PTSD reactions to people because they know they aren't supposed to be prejudiced. But the fact is that they are terrified of being hurt again. When serious trauma is involved, these issues become so much more complex and difficult to resolve. One day at a time, we just keep working away at it.Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01033756188316598562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-162230152886935198.post-56718148730335317172012-05-31T17:23:16.944-04:002012-05-31T17:23:16.944-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01033756188316598562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-162230152886935198.post-29436191339026168012012-05-31T14:37:47.411-04:002012-05-31T14:37:47.411-04:00So sad:( God placed you in his life to influence f...So sad:( God placed you in his life to influence for the better, and you are. You may not witness the full harvest but you are helping plant those seeds.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03750650858915406868noreply@blogger.com